PinnedStrengthening the True Self and Healthy False Self after Military ServiceCaroline is a PhD student in the University of San Diego’s Leadership Studies program. She is a Coast Guard and CIA veteran who serves as a mentor in the Armed Service Arts Partnership’s comedy bootcamp courses. Her book, Fairly Smooth Operator, is now available. Due to the rigidity of life…Psychology7 min read
2 days agoHow to Lead in a Declining DemocracyMisinformation and lies from adversaries to US citizens. Ok. Misinformation and lies from US politicians to US citizens. Ok. Misinformation and lies from the Supreme Court to US citizens. We’re not ok. As much as I am very much supportive of choice, the kicker for me this week wasn’t the…Prayer3 min read
5 days agoQuick Reflections on Power and LeadershipMy Chinese colleague told me yesterday that as much as people in China hated what Trump said about them and what he did to their country during his time in office, most of the general Chinese population still respected his leadership. …Power3 min read
Jun 11Egg Freezing ResistanceVoy a poner mis huevos en el refri… Even while I am a week into the process, I am still resistant to freezing my eggs because 1) it feels like my fear has been developed and exploited and 2) I feel like I am participating in an elitist procedure that I shouldn’t care about. Instead of feeling grateful…Fertility3 min read
Jun 7She Has a Book…“But my ex-wife is an influencer…” Nobody cares. “And, Caroline, she wrote a book…” When asked what the subject was of the book, he said he didn’t remember. “I deleted everything off my phone…” Is deleting everything the reaction of an innocent person? His sad excuse for his lack of…Predatory Behavior4 min read
May 19How Long Until Their Lawyer Regrets Defending Them?Depends on their level of empathy and perhaps integrity… If they are really in the role of playing therapist, it could still be a few more years. If they are smart, perceptive, and willing to catch on that they are being played, it could turn around more quickly, perhaps in…Law3 min read
Mar 6Part III — Don’t Make Your Bed, Get a Freaking Therapist.The following is a reaction to Admiral McRaven’s 2014 speech and counters his wisdom that emphasizes task achievement and pushing past adversity as being useful for transitioning service members. …Abortion6 min read
Mar 6Part IIDid I want to drive off the Key Bridge for about a week after my abortion? Yes. Was I ever going to get enough speed to get over the sidewalk and barriers in DC rush hour traffic? No. I didn’t really cry again until after the procedure. I wish I…Abortion2 min read
Mar 6Confused at Best — Psychopath at Worse. Tormenting Myself.Caroline is the author of Fairly Smooth Operator: My Life Occasionally at the Tip of the Spear, now available on Amazon. She is PhD student at the University of San Diego and CIA and Coast Guard veteran. Finally home. Sort of. I sat in my car, lights still on, the…Toxic Relationships16 min read
Mar 6My abortion story — it’s hard…Part I“Studies show that after five years, most women have positive feelings associated with their abortion.” But don’t people feel better about most things after five years? My story ends with the view that both extreme sides of the issue are wrong, as is usually the case. Abortion clinics shouldn’t be…Anti Abortion8 min read